Thursday, November 17, 2011

Oh, Parenting (A Mama Kat Writing Prompt)


This week, random.org handed me Mama Kat prompt number two: Your biggest parenting challenge and/or joy.

I have two children, Tenley (15) and Wayne (12). There was never any question that being a mom was a goal for me. I have never been disappointed that I chose to have children, and despite all of the poop, human pacifier-ness of those first months, sleep deprivation, homework monitoring, mom-taxiing, Barney viewings, close calls almost breaking my neck tripping over Hot Wheels cars, goodie bags with cheap plastic crap, and a thousand other up-and-down parenthood experiences (dance, gymnastics, running, football would take a whole additional post), it is still my core purpose in life.

The challenge? Reconciling the ideal of the family I envisioned, with the reality of the one I ended up with. Before I had kids, I had a vision of being the house in the neighborhood where everyone congregated. Instead I walk into the house sometimes to loud rowdy boys and am annoyed that I have to stay "on" until they leave. Before I had kids, I envisioned my offspring dressed in durable, stylish, clean, ironed clothes. Instead (and this comment applies to my son as opposed to my daughter) I see a kid who really doesn't care (much) that his Croc (that he is not supposed to be wearing to school anyway) is missing a back strap or that he is going on his first "date" in gym shorts and a tshirt from a summer camp.  I envisioned children sitting down at their desks in their rooms, getting their homework done studiously. Although my daughter has adopted better work habits, I still walk in on my son "doing his homework" at the computer ... with YouTube on the screen (and they AREN'T instructional videos)!

Even with all of that, I guess the verses I chose for their birth announcements sum up the joy with which Tenley and Wayne were welcomed into the world (I just didn't know the world would be quite so chaotic!).


Tenley's:

Don't know why you chose us
Were you watching from above?
Is there someone there that knows us,
Said we'd give you all our love?
--Marc Cohn









Wayne's:

Everything we feel for you
Started many ages ago.
Long before we knew you
Long before we met you.
We were sure we'd find you
someday, somehow...
Now you really are here and
now at last we know.
That long before we knew you,
we loved you so.

-- Jule Styne
 



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6 comments:

Dumb Mom said...

So, even at age 12 my son will still be going to school looking like a mad scientist with his disheveled clothing and hair and eyebrows? I swear the boy looks like he got jumped into a gang most days when he leaves the house!

Jessica said...

Oh perfect. So my kids will never learn to dress properly. :) Great post!

Krystyn said...

Funny how our vision and parenting reality are so different, right? And, yet, so perfect!

Crystal said...

First of all...so cute! Secondly, I LOVE the name Tenley! I'm preggo with #5...all my kiddos names start with "T"...but they are ALL boys..so far!! I can understand this post totally. THe vision (before we are in the throws of motherhood) are always more graceful, grandeur and cleaner than the reality! None of my boys care about clothes OR personal hygene! They stink! I'm just saying!

Motherhood Truth said...

This made me have flashbacks of what I thought my family would look like. I am with you, I don't see much if any of it now. Great post!

Katya kate said...

Oh I hear you. Motherhood is indeed challenging! Dealing with them especially on adolescent stage must be tough! I don't have teenagers yet, and I hope I'll be as strong as you and I'll not get crazy in dealing with them. Cheers to what we signed for!!! In the end, our kids are the world to us!